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Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Dear Feminists, Grow Some Balls.

I’ll bet you never thought you’d read about a motivated, intelligent woman who hates feminism, but here it is. I understand the need to speak up for the women in some third world countries who are still being mistreated - but it is the Western feminists that need a serious re-awakening. The ones who host televised events and challenge the most minuscule law discrepancies at the supreme court. Then they go home to their beauty magazines and soap operas feeling victorious because they've "won" something. The very idea of it all makes me feel like an old black and white cartoon character with steam blowing out my ears. Just re-reading that paragraph creates serious face wrinkles and I fight against clenched fists just to get these words out. It makes women seem like we need a whole fucking movement to prove ourselves. It’s completely useless and hypocritical to beg for equality and then turn around and demand special treatment. Okay we got dealt a shitty hand back in the day and that damn bible sure wasn’t on our side but take a look around. We moved up in the world. We can sit wherever we like on the bus, we’re allowed on the golf course as soon as it’s open in the morning. We can drive, vote, and drink at the same age as men.We are not bound by any laws that have been passed without our voice or representation. These changes were inevitable as society progressed, but were not created by marching in pink parades or hosting weekly luncheons to bitch and complain - but by demanding human rights. HUMAN rights, not women’s rights. We are only further degrading ourselves by creating a distinction. I’ve never seen a Man’s Rights parade. The very idea seems laughable.

Lillian Hellman once wrote, “No one can argue any longer about the rights of women. It's like arguing about earthquakes.”

I couldn’t have put it any better. We’ve already made it to the forefront of the human social chain and need to stop pretending we are still so incredibly hard done by. It was a long journey, and none of it was easy, but that doesn’t make us weak. Men never had to work to achieve equality because they started out superior. We are letting them stay that way by catering to this notion that we require a feminist revolution to make a difference. This all might sound crazy coming from me – but just think about one last thing for me…. what’s the opposite of Feminism? Masculism? I’ve never heard of it. In fact, this spell check doesn’t even register it as a word. It doesn’t exist.

2 comments:

JJ said...

I think often when we talk about the past regarding the place of women in society, we lack historical imagination. We tend to look back judgmentally on how things were without recognizing the massive impact that technological change has had on women's rights. In the "old days" when life was so much more agriculturally and militarily oriented, physical strength and size was a much bigger deal. Add to that the fact that in childbirth women were placed at a huge physical disadvantage, and the way society ended up organizing itself makes a lot of sense. The simple fact is that technology dictates A LOT of our moral evolution (whether that is good or bad is a whole other discussion). So when technology eliminates much of the importance of physical strength, and then the pill divorces sex from childbirth, the place of women in society is bound to shift, as it has.

My beef with feminism though tends to go in the other direction. Maybe rather than women growing balls, men need to grow some breasts or something. Now to an insecure guy that is just going to sound like I'm gay, but I'm not - I just think there is currently more that men need to learn from women than vice versa. Too often the feminism ends up sounding like "hey, men are assholes!!! We need to be assholes too!!" That can't be good. They say that there is a need to be more aggressive and emotionless. But we know those tend to be movements in an unhealthy direction. Would it not be wiser for men to take a deeper look into what it takes to be nurturing and connected to emotion? Of course balance is necessary, but I think it would be hard to say that the balance is currently tipped in favour of the more traditionally female characteristics....

GoldDaniel said...

I agree that the idea of a movement now is holding women back, but I'm not really able to comment a whole lot, not being a woman and all.

I feel that too much emphasis is placed on sex. Not the act, but which sex you belong to. It's the same reason that sexuality is considered such a big deal. If we stopped worrying about whether someone is a man/woman/whatever we wouldn't be able to discriminate, and I bet a lot of people would enjoy sex and sexuality a whole lot more.

if you happen to be a billionaire...