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Monday, August 24, 2009

"As people (usually those in a romantic or potentially romantic spot) get to know one another, they open up. Good. Fine. But in doing so, some end up pulling themselves closer to the other person...rearranging themselves in such a way that their world stands or falls by the others. By not reciprocating this maneuver, you are accused of being cold and distant, when actually you never moved from where you've always been - they did. You haven't gone anywhere at all. Instead, you continue to acknowledge yourself (and them too) as individuals. The same individuals who first met and respected one another for the people they already were."

- In a letter from a viewer response to Backwards Validation.

4 comments:

noel said...

Hi Heather..as i've just read your last 4 entries,im sorry,but as easy as it sounds i cant help identify with you,even though im 1 third through a btl of jack daniels(ooh caps lock).im an only child of a closet alco mam who raised me better than most kids with 2 parents(24th today,she is 55,im 31 still)but i never had the pseudo father thing which turned out good for me although i did have to chase some assholes away to my mothers obvious disliking even though they treated her badly..contd.

noel said...

..contd...but it made me more worldly wise even before i travelled(still am),we are like cat and dog but its over in a blink...cos im a pacifast..haha(the irony)you only have one mam so of course i do love her obviously.she came from a wealthy family,but no bone,we made it on our own of which im extreamly proud of her(still black sheep though-now my cousins are getting older[im the oldest]its blending,they see the light-lol-being irish is a stigma sometimes-not called the 'fighting irish for nothing)...contd

noel said...

...contd...im rambling on that one..sorrry...anyways..those girls with the shades and best friends etc.....god fuckin help us...some lads are just as bad as them..the same type people are probably in facebook or bebo with 1500 friends(1200-that they haven't got a clue of),i dont subscribe to those sites on the basis i have kinda enough friends-ish to talk with,some every day,or week,month,few months-u get the point....like pick up the phone people!havin a cig..what you wrote on men and women is damn true,i put my heart on my sleeve in the last few years cos i felt it right...contd

noel said...

...contd...people get burned(only once here)fuck it,got to be a little bit hard sometimes and move on with life,tick-tick,i've been single for 6 whole years without a partner(although some girls at port-haha) and im still 3 quaters happy with that part of the life...i understand that the majority of women feel the need for company and hell,men too,but im in the mind when you are ready to get back to that,fair game!bloody mr. daniels..i must come across as a bit of a donkey,im sorry...finally,look Heather,i still get ridiculed for speaking my mind like you and not following the crowd,but fuck it,they will always be there no matter what,its better than being some sheeep as u know...and your real friends(im sure ya have a plenty) should be there...shite..its 3.16am...and i still have a good bit-o-jackyboy to go....slainte

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